Some Calls Leave an Impactful Trace in Your Heart
I received one recently.
For 13 months I had been accompanying a client and his wife through his severe illness. I worked with them voluntarily. My heart said yes from the very beginning. And I never questioned it.
Then one day his wife texted me.
He would like to speak to you.
Are you available?
Yes, I am.
We got on the phone. He wanted to say goodbye. He could barely speak. His wife gently supported him. But I heard him. Clearly. Completely.
“Thank you for accompanying me this past year. We did a good job.”
I broke down in tears. It was a painful goodbye. And one of the most beautiful moments of my life.
Two weeks earlier, his wife had left me a message. His deepest goal throughout the entire journey had been to leave in peace. To be at peace. And she wanted me to know: the goal is reached.
He passed and transitioned two days after our call.
His wife told me: he chose the light.
Yes, he did. ✨
This call was the deepest and most beautiful gift I ever received. It is truly special, getting to know people on their soul level throughout their challenging life journey, feeling so deeply connected. Yes, he and his wife did an amazing job. And so did I.
My perspective on healing deepened.
Healing goes beyond the physical. I know this now. Not as a concept. As lived experience.
In my work at the Self Healing Academy I look at the human being in their wholeness across every dimension that makes us who we are: mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. These dimensions are not separate. They are in constant conversation with each other. And healing, true healing, can happen on all of them, simultaneously, or one at a time, or in ways we never expected.
What this journey taught me on a deep level is that healing does not require the physical body to recover.
We can heal beautifully without the body healing.
When the mental, emotional and spiritual dimensions find their wholeness, when acceptance softens the fear, when resistance gives way to peace, when a soul feels seen, connected, complete and ready: that is healing. Profound, real, and whole.
He didn’t recover physically. But he healed.
He left in peace. He chose the light. And in doing so, he expanded my understanding of what this work — what healing itself — truly means. Healing is not a destination the body arrives at. It is a state the soul moves toward. And that journey is available to every one of us regardless of diagnosis, prognosis, or life circumstance.
My Own Learning Curve
I want to be honest with you. This understanding did not come easily.
I always held the intention that physical healing was possible. I believed — and I continue to believe — in those opportunities. I have walked my own healing journey. I have met many people who healed beyond prognosis, beyond what medicine predicted.
So when I entered this journey alongside him and his wife, I carried that intention with me. I held space for recovery on all levels, including physical recovery. Quietly, lovingly. But I held it without pushing it onto him.
That distinction — between holding space for more or imposing it — is one of the most important qualities a mentor, coach and healer can learn and offer. We don’t know what is best and we can trust that our clients do know.
The truth is that from the very beginning, he never believed in physical recovery. He was grateful for every month and week. His diagnosis left little room for that possibility.
And over those 13 months I had to do my own inner work. I had to let go of my attachment to healing and self-healing itself. I had to accept that healing could look completely different from what I envisioned and also wished for silently. That was my learning curve. And it was a deep one.
I had understood this from a conceptual viewpoint before. I had read it, wrote about it, spoke about it. But transformational work is not a mindset or a concept. It is lived experience and deep inner work.
And this is my message to every mentor, guide, coach, healer, and leader reading these words:
We need to heal ongoing on deeper levels to serve to the highest good of our clients.
Not once. Not at the beginning of our journey. Ongoing. Continuously. Humbly.
Because life will always take us to the edges of what we know and believe. And it will ask us to grow beyond them. He did that for me. And I am deeply grateful. And I understand why our souls had to meet.
We Are Always Being Prepared
There is one more thing I want to share.
This work doesn’t only change how I show up for my clients. It changes how I show up for my own life. For the people I love. For the moments I cannot plan for.
Looking back now, I understand something I couldn’t have articulated when I first said yes to this journey.
We are always being prepared for something we don’t yet know is coming.
The 13 months I spent walking alongside him and his wife with trust and connection, the letting go, the expansion, the lived experience of healing beyond the physical. All of it was preparation for my own next level. Personal preparation. Life preparation, leading to deeper work on the professional level.
This is what deep transformational work does. It moves through us. It changes us. It prepares us for our own life: for the people we love, for future clients, for the journeys we will one day be asked to walk ourselves.
And so I want to ask you, wherever you are reading this from, whatever journey you are on:
What is your current experience preparing you for?
Sit with that question and listen.
Let the answer find you.
Trust the process of life.
It is not against you.
Life happens for you.
Because healing, real healing, beyond the physical is always moving us toward something. Something deeper. Something truer. Something we couldn’t have reached any other way.
With deep gratitude: Thank you soul friend for your inspiration.
Healing goes beyond the physical. Transformation does too.